We All Have a Soft Spot

October 2026

We all have a soft spot.

It does not matter whether we have awakened to our true nature. Call it the ultimate reality, cosmic awareness, God consciousness, a Jesus moment, whatever you call it. It does not matter how long we have walked the path of practice, yoga, Zen, or another way.

We all have a soft spot.

By a soft spot I mean a place in us that, when it is touched, makes us feel very vulnerable. Before any thought, we protect it. We pull back. We get angry. Or we just space out.

There may be a few people on this planet where all of this has been released. I do not know. But for most of us, it is still there.

When the soft spot is touched

I find this important to see, because we have a tendency to judge each other.

When someone’s soft spot is activated, we can see them contract. They might become small, fearful, anxious, defensive and aggressive. And we think, they cannot have realized much. They are not that mature.

Or we say it out loud. You are so anxious right now. You are full of frustration. How can you act like this, when you are supposed to be awake?

The judging is what hurts. It lands as shame. In that moment the person can feel boxed in, as if they are only this contraction and nothing more.

What we can give each other

When the soft spot comes up, people often do not need us to fix anything. In that very moment, they need to be with it. And they might need us to truly listen, and be there with them.

This is not easy. When our soft spot is touched, we are often overwhelmed and fearful. We might lose our orientation. We might not feel what is happening, as we are too busy protecting ourselves.

So we can be present with each other. We can let the other person turn toward the overwhelm and fear, embrace it, and be with it until it releases.

Turning toward

I aspire to honor the contraction. And in myself, I aspire to turn toward the vulnerable part of me and embrace it. Not judge it. Not explain it away.

I know I am not just that contraction. I am so much more.

The best thing we can do is acknowledge it, turn toward it, and attend to it. Let it pass through the body.

This is the greatest gift we can give ourselves, and each other.

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